Some people sit passively in the passenger seat of a car or the back seat of a rideshare feeling too uncomfortable to speak.
Yet when your life potentially is on the line, it’s a good time to find the strength to speak up and say something. Something like this: “The way you’re driving is making me uncomfortable. Will you please stop tailgating/looking away from the road/texting/speeding/ [or whatever else you may need to say].”
Here are some other less life-threatening statements you may one day have occasion to make:
- I’d love for you to come over, but tonight’s not good for me.
- I can’t go out tonight. I’ve got a big day tomorrow.
- No, thanks. I’ve had enough to drink.
- Nah. I don’t want to get a tattoo right now. I didn’t plan on that. You go ahead, though.
- I heard you twice the first time.
- I can only repeat what I said the first time.
- Baby, I like it when you open the car door for me because it makes me feel special. Please keep doing that—forever and ever.
- Sweetheart, I know you’re upset right now. But can we please have this discussion without cursing? I realize you’re not cursing at me, but it makes me crazy when we get aggressive with our words. Let’s talk nicely to each other. Cool? Thanks, love.
- Good morning, boss. I won’t be in today. [Explanations are not always necessary.]
- I don’t understand everything in this contract. I’ll take some time to review it before signing. Doesn’t that sound reasonable to you?
- I don’t have an answer for you right now. I’ll get back to you in 24 to 48 hours.
- I wish you all the best. It’s been nice. Goodbye. Sayonara.
Staying and being true to yourself is the willingness to say something at the risk of rocking the boat. You won’t sink.