When the producers from The John Walsh Show called to ask if I would be a featured guest on the day time talk show, my initial thought was, “NO WAY!”
My fear was intense. I ended the call by saying, "I need to check my schedule." What schedule?
My dramatic excuses went like this:
- I’m not ready.
- There's not enough time to prepare.
- My book isn't finished.
- I'm not camera ready. I’ve gained weight.
- I’m not good enough.
- Who me? Why me? Couldn't be. What have I got to say?
- What if I make a fool of myself?
- What will people say and think?
Talk about creating drama!
There's a proverb that says, “Worry gives a small thing a big shadow.”
Here is my three step, fail-safe, go-to process for dealing with fear.
- Ask, “What’s the worst that can happen?”
- Consider how you're going to feel if you allow the opportunity to pass you by.
- Imagine yourself at 80 years old answering these questions:
- Am I proud of my life?
- Did I go all out?
- Is there something I wish I had done or risks I wish I had taken?
- Did I give my life my best effort?
- Could I have accomplished more?
- Did I use my gifts and talents? Fear
- Did I stand for something and act with courage?
If my three step process doesn't work for you, go with this:
- Network with individuals who are doing what you want to do.
- Maintain a positive outlook and engage in positive self-talk.
- Read books by people you admire and listen to motivational materials.
- Find a coach or a mentor.
- Be patient with yourself.
- Celebrate small victories and remind yourself of your successes.
- Ask for help.