When the producers from The John Walsh Show called to ask if I would be a featured guest on the day time talk show, my initial thought was, “NO WAY!”
My fear was intense. I ended the call by saying, “I need to check my schedule.” What schedule?
My dramatic excuses went like this:
- I’m not ready.
- There’s not enough time to prepare.
- My book isn’t finished.
- I’m not camera ready. I’ve gained weight.
- I’m not good enough.
- Who me? Why me? Couldn’t be. What have I got to say?
- What if I make a fool of myself?
- What will people say and think?
Talk about creating drama!
There’s a proverb that says, “Worry gives a small thing a big shadow.”
Here is my three step, fail-safe, go-to process for dealing with fear.
- Ask, “What’s the worst that can happen?”
- Consider how you’re going to feel if you allow the opportunity to pass you by.
- Imagine yourself at 80 years old answering these questions:
- Am I proud of my life?
- Did I go all out?
- Is there something I wish I had done or risks I wish I had taken?
- Did I give my life my best effort?
- Could I have accomplished more?
- Did I use my gifts and talents? Fear
- Did I stand for something and act with courage?
If my three step process doesn’t work for you, go with this:
- Network with individuals who are doing what you want to do.
- Maintain a positive outlook and engage in positive self-talk.
- Read books by people you admire and listen to motivational materials.
- Find a coach or a mentor.
- Be patient with yourself.
- Celebrate small victories and remind yourself of your successes.
- Ask for help.
Maybe FEAR is an inevitable part of our evolution. Regardless, sometimes you must get out of your own way and out of your comfort zone.
Doing what we fear is not always easy. Acting in spite of fear will sometimes teach us that what we dreaded was not so bad after all and it could land you with an appearance on a day time, network talk show.