I like this quote:
“Worrying is like sitting in a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you anywhere.”
I used to worry about stuff I couldn’t control:
- My sister is still using drugs.
- My friend is drinking at 8am.
- A close family member stopped talking to me and I don’t know why.
- My nephew is getting tackled on a football field.
- A cousin is engaged to the biggest loser.
- My brother is riding a motorcycle without a helmet.
- A 17-year-old student quit dance and high school and is making full-on adult choices.
We must acknowledge our lack of power when it comes to fixing the lives of others.
If you’ve already:
- Lectured and shared your personal horror stories
- Provided scientific proof
- Attended 12-step meetings
- Made threats and presented ultimatums
- Organized interventions
- Called the authorities, and
- Talked till you were blue in the face, then perhaps it’s time to acknowledge that all you can do is be a good example (which never really feels like it’s good enough).
Bottom line: People do what they want to do.
Worry not, my friend. Try not to worry yourself blue.