I grew up hearing phrases like:
- You can’t fight city hall.
- If you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em.
- You’re just one person. One person can’t change the world.
- You have to crawl before you walk.
- Start from the bottom, and work your way up.
- It’s a dog eat dog world.
- When the government sneezes, we catch cold.
- Ain’t no such thing as a free lunch.
- It’s a waste of time talking to anyone about your problems because when the conversation’s over, you still have the problems.
- Life is hard.
- No one’s gonna help you.
- The eagle flies on Fridays.
- You have to make it on your own.
- Marry someone who loves you more.
- The only way to make money is to work hard for it.
All this sentiment related to struggle was my real life reality. I lived as the cynical, doubtful, and pessimistic individual. Regarding everything and everyone – the struggle was real.
The benefit of these one-liners is that they instilled in me a tenacious work ethic because I was scared for my life. That in turn, allowed me to unlearn all this stinkin’ thinkin’. In an effort to struggle less I changed my thoughts to struggle-less:
- Listening to motivational speakers.
- Learning about the power of thought and how powerful our minds are.
- Accepting that it was impossible to build a positive life based on negative thoughts.
- Believing it was possible to minimize, mitigate, and avoid some drama and pain .
- Making concerted efforts to look for the positive in every situation while believing that no matter how bad something is, there’s a hopeful glimmer of light somewhere.
- Forcing negative energy away without acknowledging, contributing, or participating.
- Letting go of the need to control.
- Updating habitual, small-minded, or ignorant thought patterns.
- Celebrating gratitude and looking for hopeful glimmers of life’s light.
We all get to peace differently. Lovely struggle-less journey to you.