Do you sometimes dread attending an event because you anticipate dreadful dynamics? Do you feel stressed when you know you’ll be mixing and mingling with certain family members, friends, or acquaintances?
1. Limit your interaction with unpleasant people. Love those who treat you well. Be polite to those who don’t. And limit your interaction with disagreeable, battery-draining, toxic individuals.
Saying hello to the unpleasant people who make life difficult isn’t easy. Yet a brief exchange of pleasantries is a great way to set your boundaries with them.
So let’s say that instead of ignoring for hours a person you consider toxic, you walk up to them with an upbeat disposition, along with a beautiful smile, and say, “Hello.”
If you seriously want to show out, pay them a compliment. Saying something like “I’m loving your hair/boots/suit/handbag/etc.” eases the tension for both of you. You’ll feel proud of yourself for acting like a wise adult, and you may even find yourself wondering What just happened? Immediately following the exchange, make yourself scarce and carry on with the festivities. Boundary set.
2. Accept what is. You can’t control every situation, and sometimes you must accept life and accept your limitations. Accept what is. You simply can’t fix everything.
3. Enjoy what’s good and appreciate what’s working. Redirect any negative energy by intentionally looking for something positive. Elderly people and children make good comrades during those moments when you feel uncertain or uneasy.
4. Find support. Redirect your attention away from the toxic person. Find a comrade—someone who’s also looking for what’s good and what’s working.
5. Feel proud of yourself for doing the right thing. Maintain a sense of peace—as well as your sanity.
Go. Attend events without worrying over the possibility of a stressful, dreadful interaction. Feel confident as you mix and mingle in joy. Enjoy.