I know what it’s like to be in a relationship that is a complete waste of life’s breath.
I used to semi-exist inside these relationships convincing myself, “it’s not that bad” or…
“it’s better than my last one.”
We all have an inner knowing, our intuitive sense, that tells us when it’s time to cut our losses, turn around, get out of town, move on up, step aside, or exit through the side.
But sometimes we do nothing. Why?
In my case, I was lazy and I was looking for shortcuts and easy outs.
Talk about losing yourself bit-by-bit and day-by-day!
Living like a coward hurts. The self-disappointment creeps in slowly…quickly.
It takes courage to ask yourself tough questions like:
1. Why did I stay?
2. What was I looking for?
3. What was I afraid of?
4. What are some common patterns throughout my past relationships that haven’t been working for me?
5. Do I still doubt myself?
6. What do I need to do to be stronger?
7. Am I willing to do better with my life?
8. Do I believe I have what it takes to live my definition of a good life?
Asking these questions is just the beginning.
Answering them may take a lifetime especially if you play games with yourself and/or believe your own hype. Getting honest with yourself and asking hard questions may not be easy, but it’s worth it. You’ll learn stuff about yourself, and not all of it will be pretty.
If you’re wasting away, avoiding reality and worse yet, avoiding yourself, remember:
A dead-end is a perfect place to turn around.
Try something new. Maybe release a little fear.