Leo Tolstoy wrote, “Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” Does this apply to couples too? Happy couples are rich in discovery, excitement, passion, curiosity, gazing, and touching. (Well, maybe not every couple is rich in all of these things. But you get the picture.) Unhappy couples—let’s be real—do appear unhappy in their own way. You lead the way to love and happiness in your life. And to lead the way, you have to be honest with yourself at all times. That’s why, when you’re in a relationship, it’s a good idea to periodically ask yourself questions like these:
- Do I like the person?
- Do we respect each other’s values?
- Is this person well-adjusted, patient, rational, and kind-hearted?
- When I’m with this person, do I feel empowered—or do I feel depleted, exhausted, and/or beat down?
- Did getting lovey-dovey, hot and heavy too quickly with this person cause me to ignore red flags I might otherwise have noticed?
- Am I in denial about anything that has to do with this relationship?
- Is this relationship good for me, and am I growing in ways I want to grow?
- Am I developing habits that make my most beautiful goals and dreams, the ones I hold true to my heart, less likely to be realized?